Holding the Paradox

By |December 10th, 2018|

Friends, as we approach the long darkness of the year, here in the Northern hemisphere, it is good to consider the season.  There is a paradox of what is spiritual and what is physical.  We live in the truth of what we experience in our senses and our spirit.  Although we acknowledge this paradox in […]

Let Them Cry – The Key to Adaptation

By |November 4th, 2018|

As parents and teachers, sometimes we hold or comfort a child who cries.  The holy moment of an expression of sadness, grief, or futility is a moment of adaptation.  Wet and salty acceptance.
Big Emotions
While big emotions are often difficult and sometimes even socially inappropriate, children cannot be expected to behave like adults.  The work of maturing […]

Beauty in the Palette of the Heart

By |May 28th, 2018|

Our human hearts hold an array of emotions and feelings mixed together throughout our daily walk, a palette of swirls and blending colours in one continuous experience.  What helps our hearts come to rest amidst the swirl is the safety and acceptance of our human relationships.

When we are together, our emotions like colours, mix.  We respond […]

Beauty, Even in the Hurt

By |May 5th, 2018|

Driving home from a breakfast with the most tender friends, when hurt is present, I am reminded, the struggle is beautiful.

We sipped coffee as we leaned into dark places. The tears welled up in our eyes, as the shadows of anxiety and fear crossed our faces. We shared in giggles and subversion. And, the sun […]

20 Creative Ways to Connect with a Child in Less Than 20min

By |September 9th, 2017|

As the Chief Learning Officer of a school, sometimes students end up in my office after making terrible choices in class.  It’s not my favourite part of the job, yet I am grateful to support both the child, family, teacher, and classroom in those moments.
Gather a Child
Last year, I had one such experience with a […]

When You Have to ‘Push Through’

By |May 28th, 2017|

What does it mean to ‘push through’? What does it mean to ‘dig deep’? When should I set a boundary and ensure I have time and space for recovery?

These questions are abiding at this time of the year. It is predictable. It is cyclical.

I lost it yesterday morning and shouted at my child, in front […]

The Essence of a Welcome

By |January 7th, 2017|

Welcome Home
Over the holidays both my mother and mother-in-law offered the warmest welcome.  The food, beds, games, and activities were prepared.  The tables and ovens were set.  The details were considered with care and the preferences, comfort, and requirements of each one was reflected in the welcome.  With each mention of need or concern, adjustments were made […]

Coaching Children ~ Four Big Ideas for the Lived Curriculum

By |November 13th, 2016|

We are coaching children into their extraordinary potential! I am passionate about helping parents and teachers co-design spaces for children to thrive and I am asking myself and others, “How can we coach children effectively over the course of their school days?”

First of all, I’m trying to learn how to be a better coach. My adolescents […]

Move from Stress to Rest

By |October 1st, 2016|

Any ideas on how to manage the stress?  The calendar turned to October and we’re not sure it is letting up.  Those of us caring for children in homes and classrooms are definitely feeling the weight of back-to-school.  We post about autumn being the time to “let things go” and yet, we’re still figuring out what […]

A Big Secret to Self-Regulation for Children

By |September 24th, 2016|

Have you ever sunk into the generosity and luxury of a cherishing hug?  You know the kind of hug; one where you are truly embraced on a cellular level, from the depth of your soul to the core of your being. Fragrant. Warm. Enveloped. Cuddled. Comforted.

Children need hugs.

They don’t need to be rushed or hurried, chastened or directed. […]