Thank you for being on this exploration of worthiness with me!  You are a courageous folk, who obviously share my curiosity for the deeper things.  

Spoiler alert:  I am going to write about how the story Unbroken ends.   Last week, I included a quote from the book. But, the ending just perfectly captures something mysterious about worthiness, so I continue with a brief description here.  I haven’t yet seen the movie, but I’d love to hear your thoughts about it too!

What is the shape of worthiness?

It’s challenging.  Worthiness doesn’t come with a manual and it is difficult to measure or quantify.  

It is an inner journey; it is a spiritual journey.

It is a spiritual journey that takes us downward…  

A waddle versus a soaring

A journey for the courageous…

A sense of worthiness develops as we embrace our vulnerabilities.  

Vulnerabilities…How can we face the shadow?  How can we look at our own shame?  How can we see what is disabled” in us?  How can we heal our hurts?

The story of Louis Zamperini in Unbroken:  A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption ends with him coming to the brink of breaking.  After an unimaginably degrading and physically wrenching captivity in Japan during WWII, Zamperini is ‘rescued’ and returns to the U.S.. However, healing doesn’t come easily.  He becomes a drunk, continues to be tortured by his tormentors in nightmares, and begins to plot murderous revenge by day.  

While the physical experience of captivity is over, his very being remains toxic.

It was a further descent….

However, when Zamperini got to the depths, there wasn’t a dungeon awaiting; it was faith.  The story culminates with Zamperini’s spiritual experience of grace.  

When mercy kissed his soul he found freedom, healing, and wholeness.

The greatest gifts in our lives are fashioned by our downward descents, our inner journeys to humble places, where the only option is to embrace our vulnerabilities.  When we get there, our spirit will find grace.

We will find Heaven’s Kiss.

Heaven's Kiss

Heaven’s Kiss

I asked a mother and colleague this week, “If we know that, why are we so afraid when we see difficulties happening for our children?”

All resilience, grit, and perseverance are formed from visitations to the difficult places.  As parents and educators, we have to support, love, and come alongside children, but we don’t always have to panic, rescue, or flee.

Our best gift to ourselves and our children is the practice of grace.  A gentle compassion towards all that is unfinished in ourselves and in them.  And, “the knowledge that identity…depends only on the simple fact that we are children of God, valued in and for ourselves.” (Palmer, Let Your Life Speak).

O trust me, I do not always feel a gentle compassion towards my tantrum-ing three-year-old or my me-focused teens. But, when I do, it works better.  

And, my belief that the Lover of our souls is with my child helps me.  God is with my children and He loves them more than I do.  The heavens open and I can rest.

Faith and worthiness, of the truest forms, are inextricably linked.

How can we soften into our vulnerabilities?  How can we be patient with the things left unfinished in our children? In us?  How can we cultivate the faith that trusts that the Universe is knitting things together for good?

 

For the sake of the children,

Karine